Attitude of Gratitude

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During this season we are particularly attuned to the attitude of gratitude toward the people, places and things in our lives. We set aside our thoughts and feelings of what is wrong with our lives and the world for just a moment in time. It allows us to invite a spirit of family and togetherness beyond our normal daily routines.

In my coaching practice I encounter a consistent mindset that focuses on what is not wanted. Folks are dismayed by the events and people in their lives that seem to reflect these undesirable situations on a continual basis.

We often shift this focus, through mindful practice, to that of an attitude of gratitude for those desirable situations that are always present, too.

What does that do for the beneficial evolution of one’s life and/or perspective?

Consider the notions presented by much of the material over the last decade or so regarding the nature of how we attract what we think and feel strongly. Some refer to this as the Law of Attraction, but the concept and philosophy has been around for centuries under different labels. Just take a moment and reflect, if you would, on how your life has been very different when you experience situations that edify your humanity, your good will and those who example that toward and with you and others.

What did you discover?

Your world of personal and professional relationships is full of desirable and undesirable situations, right? If you could determine a ratio of desirable to undesirable situations, what might it be? Are you satisfied with that? Is it possible to change that ration for the better? Do you want to? When?

Imagine the results of changing your perception just slightly. It’s hard to shift your emotions, how you feel, when the situations have emotional triggers that take you out of the sense of continuity or flow, right? Sometimes we have moments of just observing the situation for what it is, completely removed from our personal emotional state and/or view of the reasons for it happening. That is a very powerful position and full of possibility. Possibility of what?, you might ask.

We can grow in compassion and understanding when we are able to disengage our own emotions and our attachment to the outcome of the situation. It is what it is and it will resolve according to the emotions and perceptions of those in it. Does that make sense? We’ve heard about the notion that when you change your view, your perception, the world changes automatically.

Imagine what an attitude of gratitude for the challenges we face can do for changing perspectives. It frees us from the emotional turmoil often associated with undesirable results. It also allows us to refocus on desirable outcomes and work toward them instead. A lack of communication is often the culprit as well.

Too often we engage situations with unspoken and unfulfilled expectations that affect our internal engine, so to speak. Instead of running efficiently we choke and sputter because our supply of fuel is diminished. So it is with communication. We are often hindered by our fear of rejection or resistance, so we remain quiet and then walk away feeling emotionally damaged. How does that help?

One simple thing can make all the difference in the world. It may feel scary at worst, but at least uncomfortable, yet we simply must open our mouths and say what is on our mind and/or heart. It might stir others and cause a disruption in the perceived flow of the situation, but the result will take the outcome to a new height in relation-ship building. In effect, you’ve just created another level of transparency.

What happens when people know more about each other and the situation at hand? Can they deal with it more effectively? Does it offer opportunity for achievement beyond the previous constraints? I would venture to say that, in nearly all situations, there is a sense of gratitude that things were spoken that everyone was feeling but no one was willing to offer for discussion.

So, in conclusion I would like to offer and even suggest that when you feel tension in a situation rather than allow it to continue, you might engage an attitude of gratitude for the opportunity to help make things better for everyone. Beyond the resistance or turmoil it may create, temporarily, you’ll garner a deeper respect for yourself and from others. Remember.. Your attitude determines your altitude.

Thanks for letting me in today. Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

Cognitive Challenges

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I started this article just after the Winter Solstice of 2012 and set it aside. Today I was stirred by a newsletter from an old friend, J. Hamilton, and was inspired to respond. Upon reviewing this material, I found I’d already written a response to our cognitive challenges. Funny how that happens sometimes. Something caused me to put it on pause back then and leave it as a draft. Now, my work was made easy and with minor additions, fits the need. The response is to the perception that we are unable to respond to the problems we face as a planetary civilization.

I know folks mean well in their display of contradictions, the outer display of their cognitive dissonance, unaware of how transparent it is and in denial of its reality in how they communicate. They don’t mean to confuse and obfuscate. Right? We separate through conspiracy and phenomena transmitted through the grape vine, the Internet. Few check to see what the vines are growing in and whether the quality of their fruit is even worth tasting, let alone ingesting. So what of the dark cabals? What of the believers? What of harmony among people and planet?

By that I mean the juxtaposition of the good vs. evil governments. WE all live and work in the same world here on Mother Earth, right? Stop being a spectator stuck in front of the computer or the tube, believing and passing on propaganda meant to continue the obfuscation. Millennials are forcing evo-leaps in social architecture that challenge authority on every level, from transparency in personal and professional environments to feeling entitled to live in a world free of fear (at least from each other) to exploring their celestial heritage as a natural part of maturity. They don’t see good or evil. They are more Taoist in their philosophy; they witness desirable and undesirable results.

Perhaps we [humans] are exactly where we need to be and that humanity or the world’s population is perfectly situated for the next phase of natural selection or what we might even call ‘evolution’ in the sense that we must grow or die. Our previous methods haven’t worked, but we keep trying to do the same thing and expect different results. The U.S. has led the way with behavioral patterning on a societal scale that affects the global village. It’s okay that we didn’t know the long term effects of our earlier behavior. Is there a ‘pause button’ that we can collectively push so that we can get a grip on learning how to get along?

Father Sky looks upon Mother Earth and the Children of the Sun wondering when the suns will shine and showearth-hands in humanity’s progression. The world is changing, for some way too fast and way too slow for others. It is changing and as arduous as change is, we must meet the challenge in every moment and rise to our best behavior. Seems we need to create a new myth, embrace a spirit of truth, live as one people. We know the truth; the effects of love. Isn’t it time we lived it? “Easier said than done,” you might say, and you would be absolutely right. Is there anything more appropriate or called for in the New Time?

The classic drama of ancient legends and myths plays itself out in the physical world on myriad levels, yet we know not how to walk between worlds, recognizing reflections of ourselves in each and embrace both, balancing our own polarity. Is it so necessary to use terms that imply separation, without understanding. We know better. What affect is truly in place when everything is part of the ONE REALITY we share? We can imagine a Mobius strip as the spirit/mind of our soul being, two twisted circles of dynamic energy becoming one as we traverse the path, remaining unaffected. If you got that, the rest is ‘easy’ on the road less traveled.

The protagonist and the antagonist are ever present in the minds of humans, perceiving the world around them from this dualistic point of view. “Trust God, but lock your car,” is a good one. Knowing what we do about the affect and effect of thought on our reality, the obvious question arises: What affect would the awareness of this natural polarity (apparently) have on an individual? On partners? On groups? On organizations? On Dancer? On Prancer? We sure like Rudolf for his light-heartedness. Imagine what the Giver Of Data could offer our perceptions; reality expanded beyond our wildest dreams. Can we conceive, perceive and receive?

As one walks between worlds, seeking ways to bridge them for the benefit of all, this place of observing polarity is quite useful. It allows one to ‘see’ and ‘hear’ as a conscious being; aware of the disturbance, but not bothered by it. What does a viewing of life through the lens of a belief system offer? Does it allow one to walk between worlds and choose where to enter as prompted by the inner knowing of leadership by conscience, the core of ethical and moral behavior? Probably not; fear-based behavior is a common response to something outside [it], even manifestations unknown spark fear in believers.

Ghandi offered this, ‘Be the change you wish to see in the world.’ It is important to be aware of the polarities in human nature and in order to ascend; we are compelled to act in LOVE. What does that mean? We open up, become vulnerable in our trust guided by discernment and lose whatever fear necessary to surrender to the indwelling spirit. True love evolves through relationships and into beneficial collaborations that synergistically elevate the status quo on both sides in the dualistic framework.

It is the willing acceptance of ‘what is,’ the reality of each desire for a ‘better’ world. It is only the view of how to accomplish this that is incongruent. Einstein said we cannot fix problems with the same thinking that caused them. We can opt for a better view, a new living awareness. What would happen if this awareness brought about the ability to transcend the current conditions? What if life could get better simply by shifting views a bit? What could it hurt, really?

advice - great workThis seems like a very idealistic proposal: to rise above one’s bias and prejudice and connect with the ‘enemy’ in love. Again I’m reminded of Jesus’ admonition ‘to love thine enemy.’ And paraphrasing… if they are thirsty, give them water; hungry, give them food… Buddha said, “Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”

Isaac Asimov made a clear point, “It is change, continuing change, inevitable change, which is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be…This, in turn, means that our statesmen, our businessmen, our every man must take on a science fictional way of thinking.” Even Mohammed said, “To overcome evil with good is good; to resist evil by evil is evil.” Hello…. is there anybody in there…. just nod if you can hear me….. is there anyone at home? Pink Floyd

I’m reminded of the piece on the wall next to my desk that goes like this, “In the spirit of Zen everyday life is the contest. There must be awareness at every moment – getting up in the morning, working, eating, going to bed… that is the place for the mastery of self.” And I suppose it is in that awareness that we seek balance, to understand the root of our dualistic predilection and to change it – returning to faith, love, trust and all things good.

Sure it won’t be an easy journey or happen in your physical body this time around, maybe, yet our reunion with Creator as Divine Kin around the world is inevitable. So why fight it? Perhaps the Star Families are maintaining a distance, communicating with a few covertly while displaying evidence of intelligence (crop circles) so obvious we’d be fools to deny it. True leaders of the 21st Century will work for the benefit of mankind by learning how to achieve balance between the worlds as neither one can be destroyed – harmonized not simonized.

It is not clear what results you can expect, only that we are called to action with pure hearts and purposeful passion to assist in this global transformation toward harmony among people and planet. Recent events and continued hardships only edify the real need for change. Masses only change when enough individuals do, proving their notions through demonstrable methods and results. It’s far from easy or simple, yet it is easy and simple. The paradox of truth prevails once again. Wow, what a concept!

Communication: Can We Just Talk?

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Communication is the number one issue across the board in relationships – personal or professional. We talk at each other instead of with each other. We avoid addressing the things that make us uncomfortable. Even worse, we run from conversations that make us feel vulnerable.

Given our lack of coping skills and avoidance techniques that range in the thousands, how to do overcome what keeps us afraid, angry, ignorant and immobile? 

It isn’t like the subject hasn’t been address by those far greater prepared and the expertise, imho, spans several areas for drawing solutions. Daniel Goleman speaks of emotional intelligence. Howard Gardner address multiple intelligences and Peter Senge touts the learning organization and systems thinking to get things rolling in the right direction. There are many others that could be included as well. We tend to compartmentalize and segment our approaches when perhaps a holistic approach is what we really need.

Some years ago after giving the corporate ladder and my marriage the best I could possibly offer (or so I thought) and having both worlds crumble, I spent a year in self-examination and analysis with the help of a number of folks qualified beyond measure to assist. I love to go deep and knowing self is tantamount to understanding others, or so the story goes.

As I explored the depths, the same notion kept coming up…. just talk. Okay… How? Of course communication doesn’t happen by just talking; it happens from how we talk but more so how we listen. Communication is a symbiosis of gesticulation, words and understanding.

celest-meditationDuring that year I went from approaching $60K to less than $6K in income and the attending self-deprecating thoughts and feelings one experiences from lack of opportunity and/or performance. My life was in shambles and I let my family down. That sounds terrible, and it felt that way. I have to say it was also one of the best years of my life. I was able to get really quiet, listen and observe my feelings and thoughts.

I found an oasis in the desert, literally, and began to restore my life. Living in Phoenix seemed only too appropriate since I was living the legend. I also found a lot of unanswered questions about building relationships and, more importantly, finding fulfillment. My first attempts were devastating, mostly through no fault of my own. My own innocence and naivety of human nature brought the house down. So I had to rebuild and remodel with new material.

Then I got a break. I had the opportunity to produce a television show. I had gotten involved with the Christown Lions Club and a public access program they sponsored. When the time came, the opportunity literally fell in my lap without saying a word. I treated it with the honor and respect I felt it deserved and although I was asked to do a kind of ‘new age’ show I opted for staying more mainstream. I’d had a bad experience on the radio with a ‘new age’ event I helped produce and I didn’t think it wise to set myself up for more uninformed public trials and tribulations.

One World became an avenue to explore how we integrate inner and outer realities, work through common fears and learn how to communicate effectively across the gamut of relationships. It was an education of many lifetimes with over 100 shows over about two years, done live to tape and no post production. I was scared of making mistakes initially, but gradually loosened up. It’s actually where ‘Zen’ began to emerge. About a half-dozen shows in the crew started calling me Zen. It came from the ‘subtitle’ of Zendor that I was using as a tongue-in-cheek ‘door to what is’ reference. The latter is a story for another time.

In the process of production, I met a gentleman who had founded a homeless transitional facility called New Day Educational Center. I had interviewed him and a graduate about their divergent yet serendipitous engagement. A few months later he approached me with an opportunity to do a commercial show on community activism and, even though it meant giving up the public access show, I jumped at the chance. I thought I could begin to generate conversations that could help Phoenicians connect and build better communities of practice and service.

Obviously it was still quite the amateur approach, but I still like the intro to the promotional video we produced. It carries a message even today.

Dreams to Reality

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Let’s face it. We all have dreams. We all have goals. Are they congruent? Does our inner life reflect in our outer life? Do we show up authentically or do we make believe and work toward something that mocks our dreams instead?

We’ve heard that goals are dreams with deadlines, but are they?

Over the years in both my personal and professional lives I’ve found that folks don’t seem to follow their dreams. Why is that? We can identify all sorts of reasons, but what are the simple and most profound ones? Could it be that we don’t feel worthy? Could it be that we really don’t believe they are possible? Could it be that we have conflicting belief systems that cause us to self-sabotage or refuse to open the door when an opportunity knocks?

Worse yet, do we run away when what we’ve asked for shows up in our reality?

The latter seems to be the most recognizable for me. I’ve been fortunate, even blessed, to have had so many opportunities to perform on a variety of stages in life. I’ve been scared to death of failing and yet risen to the occasion in spite of those fears. I’ve learned the fear is also a door. On the other side of it are phenomenal rewards. People are used to having their dreams and hopes dashed and fall into the rut of ‘if it’s too good to be true it probably is.’ How destructive that is when the exact opposite is the fulfillment of our dreams. If part of us is in denial of the possibility, then how can the other part of us perform at peak levels?

How do we translate our dreams to reality?

I watched myself go through these stages, from fear to joy to despair when others have shown up in my life with similar if not the same dreams and goals only to snap back into some fear-laden rhetoric inside their heads and disappear into the shadows as a result. It seems many run from fulfillment and joy. Why? Many books have been written on that subject.

It wasn’t until my mid-40s that I uncovered a cognitively dissonant belief I held that was causing those same patterns… risk, reward and release. I’d risk being vulnerable and step up to the plate, hit a double and knock a couple of runs in and then get stuck on base. Home was something I only saw from a distance. I realized that the emotional pattern had been set up deeply when I was orphaned at birth, but never realized how destructive it was until I took a really hard look in the mirror with the question of ‘Why?’ in regards to continued false starts and short-term relationships.

So, I began wondering if the same pattern was also part of the thoughtmospheric conditions in others; “I have a lot to offer, but you are going to reject me.” It seems we show up full of vim, vigor and vulnerability, but we have this inner self-deprecation that takes place as far as being worthy of the rewards that we sorely appreciate and even suffer to attain. There’s this internal dialog that tells us it isn’t going to work or it’s too much of a leap of faith to let go of where we are to have what we desire. We can’t let go of the past in order to move into the future… and it happens in the moment. We butt-pucker and yank the reigns hard.

The same pattern happens all over our lives, in our relationships both personally and professionally. We carry around unspoken and unfulfilled expectations that we never talk about and wonder why they are never addressed. Speaking up feels like being too vulnerable and we’d surely be rejected if people knew the insanity going on inside our heads, but we let it continue. We don’t communicate, except to the committee in our head. It’s no wonder we’ve got a nation (world) of addicts and self-medicators, numbing themselves out to the very things that offer freedom and, ultimately, JOY.

Transform Your Life

Transform Your Life

So perhaps translating our dreams to reality might involve help from both inside and outside sources. Transformational life coaching is one of the resources that is gaining popularity, although it still vastly underutilized. Of course many get ‘certification’ because they are still working on themselves but feel it’s their calling to help others. Those shingles belong on a roof and not on a door or wall, imho.

Finding someone with credentials that offer evidence of mastery internally and externally is often a challenge, but they are out there. Changing your life means changing the way you think, first of all. Find someone that challenges how you think and invites you to think differently. Your life will transform as a result, but it won’t happen over night.

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Undisturbed Calmness

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Undisturbed Calmness

That sure is a tall order for the average person in today’s world. It’s nearly impossible to stand undisturbed in the emotional tsunami that surrounds us everywhere we go. We’re pushed and pulled in every direction while we navigate the travails of our daily activities on the ocean of emotion.

It surely is a challenge to keep our sanity with so much turmoil in our world. The insanity of how humans treat humans seems almost impossible to change. Liabilities, limitations and excuses keep us from making the simple choices to clean up our thinking, affecting our behavior. Calmness comes from clarity; vision with an emptiness of desire or prejudice.

We seek to create the life we want to live. The frustrations mount when we don’t see immediate results. We hope and pray that we’re doing the right things as we wait for the signs to reflect. We strive to calm the inner dialog that seems to run rampant in times of high stress. The chaos to order scenario is hardly a notion that calms us in the depths of an emotional quagmire. Yet it can happen. We CAN be quiet.

Stilling the mind in the midst of the mayhem, perturbations plaguing the peace within, is simpler than we may think. In fact, our thoughts are so available to observe that once we begin to do so, changes happen automatically. Expecting to completely overhaul our thoughtmosphere in a short time is rather silly. It took a long time to get here. Relax, enjoy the journey back to center and make fun of yourself whenever possible. It helps to release the grip of the pattern.

You will be surprised how, completely unannounced, amazing things begin to show up. First, sporadically and then with more regularity as you come back to center more often. It’s important to breathe deeply when you have a moment, reminding you to relax and let go. Just when you are least expecting it…. something or someone will enter your world to make it all worthwhile.

It happened to me just the other day. The heavens opened and ‘coincidence’ caught up with ‘providence.’ It was quite obvious upon review. The day started with an invitation to a spiritual discussion group at a local Baha’i center. The discussion was about ‘family’ and the virtues that strong family values empower. I’ve got a wonderful extended family, but no one as a partner in life. Afterward, some friends and I decided to meet at a Barnes & Noble to catch up on life and share recent successes.

We met in the cafe’ at Barnes & Noble and had quite a wonderful conversation about the recent events in all our lives. A woman was sitting near us and I noticed she was reading The Scarlet Letter. I made a flippant comment about not seeing anyone read the book in a long time. My friends engaged her as well and, realizing that there was an ease of communication and natural affinity developing, invited her to join us.

Over the course of the next few hours evidence began to arise that this ‘chance’ meeting wasn’t so coincidental. A conversation took us into deeper and deeper recognition that our meeting was destined to move us both into a better position for fulfilling our dreams and goals. Perhaps those details will benefit many in the next few years. The trials and tribulations that produced the opportunity to discover the process to calmness produced a life-altering connection.

I’m grateful for all that has gotten me here now. More later…

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Breathe Oneness

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Breathe Oneness

I was reminded of an experience in Las Vegas almost 20 years ago now, at a weekend workshop called ‘Vision.’ Of course it was about self-development and creating alignment with purpose, people, places and things in our life.

The last day we (180 or so) were thrust into a ballroom with the edict of ‘creating a miracle.’ The miracle happened when the partner (for the seminar) of one of guys put a rose in a vase in the center of the room, unbeknownst to him at the time. Shortly later he arose from a meditation on the side of the room, walked over to the rose and sat with it, cross legged.

Before too long he was weeping uncontrollably. Many came to his aide and attempted to ‘make it okay,’ desiring to pull him out of the seeming funk. He responded with, “No, you don’t understand… you don’t understand.” After several minutes the entire group, again unbeknownst to him, had surrounded him, with arms outstretched and embracing one another as he continue to weep completely oblivious of his surroundings. Then he stopped.

Through tear-soaked and swollen eyes he looked up at the group around him now, all 180+ in a huge group hug…. simply loving in the silence of the embrace. He smiled and arose, wobbly from the outpouring. Someone asked him what happened. He said it was like the rose was a connection to the Earth and all the sorrow came pouring through it and into him.

It evidently began to subside as the group gathered around him, first wanting to push or pull him into a different place instead of allowing him to just BE in that moment. When they finally did just allow and embraced each other in a loving ‘unknowing’ the energy shifted and the sorrow subsided. The miracle had occurred.

In his statements about the experience he expressed the deep sorrow he felt from the rose vis a vis the planet and her deep despair regarding our treatment of each other and her simultaneously. It was nearly unbearable as he noted the words he spoke to those who, early on, attempted to get him to come out of that obvious despair, not knowing truly what it was. His response of, “No, you don’t understand!” came from deep within that consciousness that was being shared with him through the rose.

Ultimately they all at least got the message of our inhumane treatment of each other and the planet and at least for a brief moment in time they had all released any and all bias, judgment, prejudice or whatever… and breathed in and out together in a an embrace of unconditional love. It was truly magnificent to witness, this breath of oneness.

Just in case you haven’t experienced a breathing as one event… try Do As One.

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Pardon the Self-Promotion… Faith, Love and Trust

attitude-lifeDoesn’t that just set things up? I’m going to twist the reference into something you probably didn’t expect. I’ve been researching the nature of self-development for many decades, applying the research to changing my own life as well as the many clients and organizations I’ve had relationships with over the years.

There has been an overwhelming notion that the core competencies in any successful individual and/or organization are simple: faith, love and trust. I’ll explain what I mean by that further. We’ll look at common definitions and and extended understand extrapolated from the common understanding in hopes of making sense common. The latter brings with it a more well-adjusted and available experience in personal and professional arenas.

Faith

From Wikipedia:” Faith is confidence or trust in a person, thing, deity, or in the doctrines or teachings of a religion. It may also be belief that is not based on proof.

In religion, faith often involves accepting claims about the character of a deity, nature, or the universe. While some have argued that faith is opposed to reason, proponents of faith argue that the proper domain of faith concerns questions which cannot be settled by evidence. For example, faith can be applied to predictions of the future, which (by definition) has not yet occurred.

The word faith is often used as a substitute for hope, trust or belief.”

So this would indicate that ‘faith’ is primarily something associated with religious or spiritual belief systems. What if it were also associated with ‘experience’ systems, those things we grow to know through our experience and understanding?

I would offer that it goes much further in practical application for everyday living. We have faith in many things that guide and nurture our lives. Most of the time that faith is built on experience with people, places and things. In some cases we might say it is more of a ‘knowing’ that develops over time, but with each new situation that ‘faith’ of certain things being present is undeniable. It is a core competency of our efforts to achieve anything worthwhile.

What about the people, places and things in our lives? Can we have faith in them? Of course. Our faith my be tempered by experience. We have faith that certain actions or words will cause a domino effect, cascading into the natural outcome if unaltered or unchecked. Faith also allows us to put people, places and things together on the fly when required to address action plans or emergencies. The former can be just as stressful as the latter, yet with the faith one has in their ability to perform the results are only a matter of time.

There is also a certain faith folks carry who feel they are part of something greater. In our current planetary position, there are a rising number of what were once called Cultural Creatives™ who sense an imperative need to change our attitudes toward fear-based belief systems. Instead of focusing on what is ‘wrong’ they are turning toward developing solutions for the challenges we face as a planetary civilization. The operation of such a movement begins in local communities with leaders who serve through challenging legislators to do what is beneficial for the health of the community and its residents. There is a certain ‘faith’ that drives these folks in doing what needs to be done.

Love

From Wikipedia: “The English word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure (“I loved that meal”) to interpersonal attraction (“I love my partner”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”.And it may describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.

In terms of interpersonal attraction, four forms of love have traditionally been distinguished, based on ancient Greek precedent: the love of kinship or familiarity (in Greek, storge), the love of friendship (philia), the love of sexual and/or romantic desire (eros), and self-emptying or divine love (agape). Modern authors have distinguished further varieties of romantic love. Non-Western traditions have also distinguished variants or symbioses of these states. This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, compared to other emotional states.

Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts. Love may be understood as part of the survival instinct, a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species.”

I want to offer a little twist the concept of LOVE. Let’s expand it to Limitless Oscillating Vibrational Energy – it just IS. I trust that paints an appropriate picture. LOVE is in action, it is alive in and around us always, coursing through every person and situation we encounter. We can feel it in our humble and quiet moments. We share the sensation we do the things that bring us happiness and joy. We don’t talk about it much, though. We talk about everything else, but what really matters; to love and be loved. At our core, we all desire the same thing, yet we act out in some amazing ways to produce just the opposite; isolation and separation when we put conditions on people, places and things.

Conversely when the little ego rises to the big Ego, the inspired self, it changes the game entirely. The sensation is sought after and recognized as a resonance that is undeniable. The Limitless Oscillating Vibrational Energy becomes a guiding beacon rather than a subtle distraction. To think it just magically appears is probably not far off the mark, when one releases their fear of … then a new freedom appears and the sensation of LOVE along with it. Sure, it is a challenge to engage this kind of activity or discussion in most public gatherings or workplaces. Still, if you don’t, who will?

LOVE, in this sense, is absent of emotion yet full of feeling. The reality is a paradox in play with the mind as it grabs for meaning and practicality. I would go so far as to say it is a natural state of the universe, a sensation that is felt in every living creature in some form or another. It sounds really simplistic, but then so does quantum physics view of the appearance of the particle or wave depending on the observer. So, LOVE is difficult to consistently define, beyond the emotional states. It is easy to sense, though, permeating our being and our lives.

The little ego begins to understand the Supra Ego, the Inspired ONE, engaged and enveloped by LOVE. How does this change our behavior? When we aspire to engage the sensation in all we do, everything changes and what once seemed insurmountable might seem as just a bump in the road on our journey. In our current state of affairs and social challenges it is even more imperative that this consciousness, this understanding and wisdom, prevails in our every deed and thought. We can demonstrate, but not dominate the conversation.

Trust

From Wikipedia: “In a social context, trust has several connotations. Definitions of trust typically refer to a situation characterized by the following aspects: One party (trustor) is willing to rely on the actions of another party (trustee); the situation is directed to the future. In addition, the trustor (voluntarily or forcedly) abandons control over the actions performed by the trustee. As a consequence, the trustor is uncertain about the outcome of the other’s actions; he can only develop and evaluate expectations. The uncertainty involves the risk of failure or harm to the trustor if the trustee will not behave as desired.

Trust can be attributed to relationships between people. It can be demonstrated that humans have a natural disposition to trust and to judge trustworthiness that can be traced to the neurobiological structure and activity of a human brain, and can be altered e.g. by the application of oxytocin.

Conceptually, trust is also attributable to relationships within and between social groups (families, friends, communities, organizations, companies, nations etc.). It is a popular approach to frame the dynamics of inter-group and intra-group interactions in terms of trust.

When it comes to the relationship between people and technology, the attribution of trust is a matter of dispute. The intentional stance demonstrates that trust can be validly attributed to human relationships with complex technologies. However, rational reflection leads to the rejection of an ability to trust technological artifacts.

One of the key current challenges in the social sciences is to re-think how the rapid progress of technology has impacted constructs such as trust. This is specifically true for information technology that dramatically alters causation in social systems.

In the social sciences, the subtleties of trust are a subject of ongoing research. In sociology and psychology the degree to which one party trusts another is a measure of belief in the honesty, fairness, or benevolence of another party. The term “confidence” is more appropriate for a belief in the competence of the other party. Based on the most recent research, a failure in trust may be forgiven more easily if it is interpreted as a failure of competence rather than a lack of benevolence or honesty. In economics trust is often conceptualized as reliability in transactions. In all cases trust is a heuristic decision rule, allowing the human to deal with complexities that would require unrealistic effort in rational reasoning.”

Now let’s take a twisted view of trust. What circuitous journey am I going to take you on now? Trust is a natural foundation of living, but we have to let go of our vice-grip on reality to truly TRUST. This is probably the ultimate challenge for the change agent, you. It is self-initiating and ultimately self-fulfilling when the vision, mission, plan, practice and performance manifest as a successful endeavor.

In this kind of scenario and in order for us to serve a mission or purpose, the ‘me’ or ‘I’ has to take a break and sit out for a moment. The question arises, “How can I help with the best use of my ability, skills set and understanding for….?” With such a question and from a place of quiet observation one can allow a natural flow of appropriate contemplations or thoughts to emerge. Answers flow and quite often one simply ‘sees’ what needs to be done.

When one is able to step back and observe a situation BEFORE being engaged by it, there is the capacity for shaping the results in a positive way by simple non-attached observation coupled with that sensation of trust. Yes, it is another sensation. It has subtle differences from faith and love. Each has a frequency or resonance that is perceivable or perceptible by the body-mind sensory array. We just haven’t tuned ourselves in properly.

It applies to social architecture of the future as well. Faith, love and trust are intrinsic in developing personal and professional relationships, yet far too often we treat each other as potential enemies vying for attention, time and market share. People don’t change, a person does. If one finds people, places and things that promote happiness and harmony, how difficult is it to share those with their cohorts, peers or staff? If we are going to find sustainable processes that create a better world, what might we search for in the smorgasbord of solutions?

So what does this all mean, the twisted views? I have a feeling that these are operational foundations of our natural being. Our choice is whether we learn how to operate with them or continue to ignore them and flounder down the path to perdition we’re on as a planetary population. The practical side is the application of the new living awareness in everything we are, do and hope for in this life. It applies to how we treat ourselves, each other and our planet.

Some deeper part of me knows this is natural – BEing in faith, love and trust. The rest are distractions to the truth.

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Some Time Ago…

Here we are, 36 years later, with much proof of attempted contact. “Beware of the bearers of gifts and the broken promises.

(signed treaty violated by Earth’s elite) “Much pain but still time.” Disregard for life in all its forms, yet there is time to facilitate harmony among people and planet. “Believe there is good out there.” NO THREAT from off planet civilizations. Paul Hellyer (retired Canadian Defense Minister) revealed this is well known in the Military Industrial Complex. “We oppose the deceivers.” Opposition for those who continue to control and manipulate through fear-based systems. Opposition does not mean aggression, either. Beyond the mirroring of behavior, authenticity and openness flow more than fear. “Conduit is closing.” No longer will deceptive practices be hidden – what is done in the shadows will come to light naturally. Human-centric notions will end. The Galactic Year is ending, cosmologically affecting our solar system, right down to the cellular brain of our DNA.

There has been a growing trend, an increase in consciousness, that assuages the old belief systems and offers a new living awareness. It is evident across the world and throughout existing belief systems that have fallen short of their intended purpose – to unite humanity as one. There is a New Time and a New Way; understanding that humans are related to each other and to ‘extraterrestrial’ races as a galactic family, a galactic federation of light. The so-called ‘dark intentions’ were merely the process of an evolving civilization separated from the true knowledge of their origins, learning how to manage or mis-manage resources – people, places and things. It is a challenge for humans to see this based on their (to date) short life spans.

Here we are now in the New Time, with renewed passion for reordering our world in harmony with natural law and order. We’ve learned, at an accelerated rate since the Harmonic Convergence, that when the doorway opened and the exponential shifts in consciousness began to occur aligned with the opening created by celestial alignments, the subtle energy dance with a different beat – that of the heart.

In this New Time, truth emerges as continuous discoveries are made in science, spirituality and technology. We know there are many dimensions, demonstrated by modern mathematicians and experienced by those who, for some reason, enter into realms of consciousness heretofore only hinted at in ancient texts. Humanity is indeed awakening. However, many still seek proof in some way. Consciousness is inherently intangible yet direct experience is available. We’ve kept our inner life at a distance, rarely visiting let alone actualizing outwardly in passionate deliberate creations. Many have risen to the tasks and are experiencing breakthroughs (which are sometimes a series of break-downs) in their personal and professional worlds aligning more.

On a different plane, the bodies of that vibratory rate (similar to the physical and visual experience of Earth, not limited to 3-D physics), haven’t even begun to be explored fully. We talk about multidimensionality, with limited if not rare experiences of it, yet even with all the talking heads, there is little provided that offers a direct experience of it on demand. This is where the scientific method comes into play and with repeatability, there is capacity for expanded knowledge and wisdom, the ‘right use’ which inherently resides in the higher vibratory experience. Now that we’re in the New Time, and the remainder of the 50-year cycle surrounding the 2012 Winter Solstice, the thoughtmosphere is ripe for harvest. Implementing the awareness garnered over the last 25 years, putting it in time frame orientation, we craft and execute a new living awareness and behavior in the world.

That behavior is a demonstration of how well you are aligned with this new living model that self-corrects as awareness continues to grow. The stories are being told, those who’ve incarnated are becoming aware of their connectedness to something bigger. It’s been illusive, this path of perfection embedded in our genes and soul, the consciousness brought on by discovery and sharing of psycho-spiritual as well as scientific technologies. For the time being, though, existing systems are still in play and many still have to pay bills. That is the dilemma that has faced three generations, starting with the Peace, Love and Harmony generation of the 60s.

The Occupy Movement was the collective conscience acting out with the first stage of ‘something is amiss’ and demonstrating for addressing the obvious problems caused by poor fiscal and physical management. The wave swept the planet in a few weeks, but it was not destined for achieving results, only awareness that a seemingly huge number of people around the world agree we have a common stake in the development of our future society. Oddly enough, Crop Circles appear that seem serendipitous to events around the world and continue to offer communication to us through the bio-circuitry of the bent plants that then transfers through the thoughtmosphere of the planet and people. It supports the subtle shifts of the cosmological events as our Mother, a daughter also, begins another cycle.

There undoubtedly many methods to achieve direct experience. One such form of experience available today comes from a technique developed in the 1950s by William Swygard, called Multi-Plane Awareness. It has only been performed as an individual experience through a ‘qualified’ facilitator for decades, yet no one has taken it to the next level – for distribution – now available as an MP3 download. Only your direct experience will prove its reality… or not. Responses from those who’ve tried it have been quite phenomenal…. the bridging of worlds beyond their imagination… http://ow.ly/jzAcb

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Tell the Truth… Carefully

attitude-lifeHave you ever noticed yourself thinking and wonder why they heck you were just thinking those thoughts? We are so capable of doing so, yet how often do we really notice our thoughts. The wonderful world of science fiction and George Orwell brought us the ‘thought police’ in 1984. Fortunately we don’t have them. What we do have is a body of knowledge that supports what our feelings and thoughts do for our daily experience.

The most common reference is from The Secret which mentions the ‘Law of Attraction’ as being a permeating force within the thoughtmosphere of mankind. What does that really mean? It means that our reality is directly affected by how we feel and think; our experience is often determined by our perception of it. The ‘Law’ simply states that whatever you feel and think strongly will be attracted to you somehow.

Serendipity is ‘Remark’able

Cognitive dissonance, the feeling of discomfort when simultaneously holding two or more conflicting cognitions, becomes the challenge we face within. Most of us don’t take the time to learn the sensitivity necessary to monitor our feelings and thoughts appropriately. We engage them without a moments hesitation and often regret what we’ve just done or said as a result. Communication is the core competency few of us have mastered, let alone being able to have that internal dialog that supports our personal growth instead of our categorical demise from the self-deprecating thoughts we usually entertain.

The ‘thought police’ show up in our audience or listeners, though, even when we might not realize it. As an example – be careful when relating your truth to an audience that may not have your depth of experience or intelligence, especially if it is outside your listeners’ box of reality. Gentle hearts with solid foundations are often trampled, yet  recover and grow after being confronted with disbelievers or investigative remarks. Being a mirror for others to peer in, even when aware of the process, is a challenge for the best of us.

Many affirmations can work to help keep the peace within… ‘think the non-thought’ seems to work really well when soul gazing in the eyes of another. As a speaker, I’ve learned to offer that pause for the Cause before replying to questions and sometimes even before I open my mouth. I take a good look at the audience, connecting with the eyes of as many as I can to get a general feedback loop going. That feedback loop is the thoughtmosphere of the audience that is available when one opens to it.

We often realize we have a lot to offer yet show up with a sense of impending rejection… and so we are; until we love completely – including self. I think there was something about that in the same book many are using to justify their condemnation, criticism and judgment. In contrast to the dualistic mindset, my experience is quite different when centered in Oneness… a heartfelt condition where the mind is simply an observer and a greater part of me (the I Am Presence?) becomes totally present. The joy that is there is phenomenal and often precipitates phenomena. Countless witnesses have related stories of connecting with the sound current, the heart pulse of the universe, the Light and beyond.

Serendipitous synchronicities in my own life are chronicled on my website. Many others can be found on the Web as well. Countless stories abound, relating how people connect with their ‘magic presence’ in those moments of synchronicity on the stage of life. Is it an easy process? No, but it gets easier over time. Like any discipline, it takes practice. What is important is the self-vetting process that leads one to a more authentic and heart-felt delivery. Your audience may not call you on your lack of authenticity, but they sure can feel it. They WILL talk behind your back. If you are lucky and ‘present’ you’ll pick up on it and adjust; maybe someone will offer an honest reflection.

Most folks put in that situation will instantly reject the observers opinion and flare their own ego as a result. To the observer it is painfully obvious, yet far too often the observer is spot on in their reflection. Sure, it may not be comfortable… that’s where we grow!

Experiencing Sacred Moments

The resulting feeling from experiencing a serendipitous synchronicity, a sacred moment, is a challenge to articulate. Yet one can best related it as a sense of deep love and connectedness. It is similar to the vocalizing embrace of a lover, a simple heartfelt ‘mmmmm.’ My daily experience is not always centered in Oneness, however, and I roll with the flow when I am aware. I’ve gotten over those who attempt to discount or minimize the value of such an experience. Sharing tasty tidbits magnifies the diversity of experience and offers more menu items to others.

Life is full of diversity and our global village is made up of citizens beyond our imagination. After all, even with the theories of hybrid humans, sacred hidden bloodlines or genetic evolution we are here now. We are living on one planet at one time, with one atmosphere to breathe. Our human race need not be one of competition and coercion any longer. Servants of a higher cause have many names today; like coaches, counselors, collaborators as well as doctors, lawyers and scientists.

Sometimes my energy tends to become agitated with impatience and I am not always able to be in a zen space. I have a wonderful reminder with my name and find the challenge to practice zazen a just and prudent cause. There are many practices that people entertain in their daily lives, some more desirable than others. The trick is to recognize which ones actually benefit your life and which ones diminish it. One thing we don’t seem to practice in our society or even in education, where it would make the most sense, and that is mindfulness. I use something like it.

This process begins with feeling my heartbeat in my fingertips as I focus and breathe. Over time and with concentration I learned how to allow that pulse to permeate my entire body until I felt like one big pulsing being. Try it. Be prepared to spend some time in order to practice. There are two primary activities that keep us alive, beating and breathing. Our heart-beat is autonomic for the most part, but our breathing can be a much more conscious activity. It allows you to speak with more authority when sharing your truth.

It is amazing how such a simple practice can change an entire group’s energy when needed, let alone the affect on self. Indeed it can be used to change the energy in a room full of people. Experiment for yourself. No one has to know when you are doing it. That’s the really neat thing about it. I encourage you to embrace the possibility of affecting the groups or even your company with the daily ritual. I call it a ‘pause for the cause’ and taking a short break at your desk or station or wherever you happen to be works great.

Taps… Bring Out Your Dead

The tap on the shoulder that seems to come out of no where, to step into a leadership role, comes whether we choose it or not once we’ve committed to serving the One. It often happens after practicing authenticity imbued with integrity. Whether father, brother, grandfather, friend, lover, frustrated comedian or speck of dust, the attitude of gratitude builds precept upon precept and evokes a greater capacity to see things differently than beforehand. It’s like having a conversation with God in everyone. How would that change your behavior if you considered that before you spoke to anyone, especially if you were angry with them?

Again, we simply want to love and be loved in living life so we learn to pay attention to the flow that brings us that feeling of love. It is imperative in future development of relationships and any practice of spiritual pursuits. It doesn’t matter what position or rank we are in at the time, only that we are there to serve, reflecting from that ‘inner truth looking place.’ Funny thing about the Law of One; in order to serve and be served we must be selfishly selfless. The concept is one that deserves better and more attention, in my humble opinion..

What if we were able to let go of all the fear and ‘negative’ emotions we feel on a daily basis? What might happen? Are we aware enough of our thoughts and feelings to even challenge our behavior?

Chaos to harmony is a natural cycle, yes? What if we began to perceive things from a viewpoint of finding the harmony in the chaos? Would we be able to witness a slow change in the way we perceive? How might our daily living experience change as a result?

I’ll throw this one-liner in now, “A point of perspection dances in the balance of the seer’s vision.” Ponder that one for a bit. You may be called to share your truth and assist in the vetting of individuals, companies, groups and more in the near future. Step up and be fearless.

Sometimes an increase in energy or vibration around and/or within us can throw one into a chaotic condition while learning how to manage the increase in flow. Be prepared to encounter challenges, offering the opportunity to not only change how you respond in the moment but setting examples for those around you. If you need help with a situation, I’m always available to assist. I’m just a phone call or email away. Namaste…

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The Process of Critical Self-Reflection

8-aspectsSelf-Reflection

The process of critical reflection of assumptions empowers one and many to view influencing details that determines the ability to find consensus and harmony in any situation. Harmony does not mean the absence of conflict, merely the creative buy cialis 20mg use of it to resolve issues that inhibit cooperative and collaborative relationships in professional and personal environments.

The article presents perspectives of human patterns and the avenues available to establish collective understandings of beliefs, intentions, values and feelings to facilitate a ‘common’ reality that is workable for everyone. Critical reflection of assumptions is used to enter into a discourse to assess alternative beliefs, predicated on universal principles. CRA is used in Transformational Theory, Assimilative Learning, Objective Reframing, and Subjective Reframing for adult learning.

Transformational Theory

Transformational Theory (Mezirow, 1991,1995, 1996), which uses reflection, maintains human learning is promoted in communication through assessing intentions, values, moral issues, and feelings which requiring the use of critical reflection of assumptions. Transformational Theory holds that CRA is not a panacea or provides some transcendent experience to resolve conflict. Rather, it presents the process as a ‘best practice’ compared to other options that have been used in the workplace.

Assimilative Learning

Assimilative Learning, as used by psychoanalysts, pertains to adjustment or accommodation to a difficult situation by accepting it as conforming to one’s desire. This process moves one to act according to regulative principles, a way of thinking or behaving deemed more functional or acceptable. This seems to characterize the way adults learn to adapt to change, using tacit judgment to move forward to constructive results.

Objective Reframing

Objective Reframing examines established definitions, theories, and practices to better understand the paradigms influencing decision-making. Using critical reflection of a premise and defining a problem can lead to transformative redefinition and ‘problem posing.’ The objective of this process, in the all its facets, is to improve performance.

Subjective Reframing

Subjective Reframing examines psychological or cultural assumptions to reveal conceptual and psychological limitations.

In all of the above situations, critical reflection of assumptions is used in discursive groups to assess and manage flow of communication relative to outcomes desired within those same discursive groups that are commonly found within the workplace environment. The task for a manager is to creatively translate the use of critical reflection of assumptions and discourse to effectively facilitate conflict resolution in the workplace.

Questions:

What are the tools available for creating an atmosphere where critical reflection of assumptions can be used effectively? How can one facilitate the use of such tools in environments where human communications are predicated on form, fit and function of critical path assessments?

Potential Answers:

Human resource development programs using a combination of psychoanalytic assessment tools and facilitation training for employees are one possibility. Cultural diversity and sensitivity training for managers is another, as they can then affect communication in their respective departments. Team building or collaborative alliance training outside of the company’s environment is yet another possibility that offers professional development through reliance on others as well as self.

Critical path assessment, defining the basic fundamentals of production, can be introduced through various scenarios involving critical reflection of assumptions. One such opportunity would involve discovering the logic path used to streamline production processes, eliminating wasted resources and labor costs as a functional goal. Another would use interpersonal skills development to better affect communicating goals and objectives to a diverse population within the workforce.

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